Read the following piece from Ephesians chapter 5:
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. -Ephesians 5:22-27
What this is doing, is talking to us about how a family should be lead. Men shall sacrifice and love the wife as Christ does for the church and its people. He does not use us, infact rather the opposite. He washes our sins. Give yourself up for your wife, as Christ does for the church. Present her as the church. Now, a surface level read may make this seem like women must submit to men, and men are these all-powerful beings. Read again. It says, “Husbands, love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” She is a treasure. Submission is for husbands AND wives
A little more of this chapter really spoke to me. And I think everyone needs to read and digest it.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church -Ephesians 5:28-29
You can’t love your neighbor until you love yourself. However, a large elephant walks into the room at this point. It says no one ever hated their own body. But today, so many of us hate, mistreat and abandon our bodies. What I mean by this is our society has become so poisoned with this unrealistic body image that surrounds us everywhere. We starve our bodies of love, care, and the nutrients that it needs. We try to abandon the skin we were born in, the skin God gave us. The hair our bodies grow to protect us. The natural glow of our skin. The imperfections that carry our identity, that make us us. Take care of your body. Feed it. LOVE it.
It also says, he who loves his wife must love himself. But he(she) must love himself and the Lord before loving anyone else. If you are rekindling your faith, don’t try to become more “religious”, but rather strengthen your relationship with the Lord. A very moving and powerful book I read noted, “You must enter a relationship with yourself before anyone else” (Milk and Honey). God made you who you are for a reason, He has a certain role for each and every one of us. He loves us, we are His children. So love yourself too; love each and every imperfection that makes you unlike anyone else. Accept yourself as you were designed. Call others exquisite, resilient, brave, powerful, loving, extraordinary, before you call them pretty. Dive inside before you simply scratch the surface. Most importantly, find those characteristics in yourself. Look in the mirror and thank God for making you as the beautiful creature you are. Do not compare yourself to others and question God why you aren’t, but thank him for why you are.